A Judd revealed

When I first started college, I made a few new friends, as most people tend to do. Eventually, the friends I made coalesced into a fairly static group that gets together for parties and poker nights. We always playfully teased one of them, a guy, as friends are wont to do. This friend, one of the nicest guys around, is very hip, bordering on effeminate. Not gay, just a woman. Even his girlfriend agrees that he's not the one who wears the pants. A bit of an oddity, until now. I was reading the archives of Sweet Juniper, and I came across a post that describes him perfectly. He's a Judd, which is apparently quite common in the Bay Area, which is (surprise, surprise) where the friend is from. Mystery solved.